Are You Nuts? Nobody Wants to Hear About Love?

This is what a friend said to me when I told them I would use the L word on my website. Well, do you want to hear about love?  If so…..then read on. Here are a few things to think about. Do you want someone to love you? Of course, you do. We all want to be loved but we don't seem to want to love ourselves, value ourselves, and treat ourselves with kindness, respect, and compassion.  

I think the first step to love, and you have heard this a million times, is to begin the journey of loving yourself from the inside out. It is the only thing that works. There are so many good books out there about loving yourself. Go find them. Read them and learn. It’s a good place to begin, but it really isn’t in those books. It is in you, and it is up to you to be willing to put down the old stories about who you think you are.

First step:  

Write that old story you’ve been carrying around. Include your attitudes, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings about love and yourself…and probably about how you don’t think you are good enough to be loved or nobody loves you because (fill in the blank). Spend time on this so you can excavate all that stuff you’ve stored.

When you feel you’ve written enough, burn what you have written.  (please burn it safely). Be willing to let it go…it is only a story. We are making them up all the time.

Second step:

Begin to write new attitudes, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings you want to have about yourself. Just make it up if you don’t feel it yet. You’ve got to start somewhere, and the imagination is a good place to begin. You can start with I AM statements. You can also write a new story of how you love, value, respect, and honor YOU. Take your time with this and allow it to unfold.

Third step:

Begin living the new story as if it were real and true.  As you live it, you’ll become more and more aware of what an amazing, loving person you are. You will begin to know you are valuable and you matter. That changes everything.

CAUTION:   This is a process and a way of living and being. It is not a one-and-done.

It can change EVERYTHING. Do you dare?